Description : a deep and long-lasting sadness- another term for melancholia ( as a mental condition)is the personality of an individual characterized by black ; a person who was a thoughtful ponderer had a melancholic disposition. Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative - as in poets and artists - but also can become overly obsessed on the tragedy and cruelty in the world, thus becoming depressed. If you are a melancholic person then you are a thinker and quiet You tend to cease perfectibility in almost every aspect that you think is important to be perfect. You put a high standard on perfectibility, that’s why you sometimes feel depressed and down because of the deficient results you get; your goals fail to accomplish. You are sensitive and need support from other people. Whenever you want to act, speak or write you need spaces to think as you are a task-oriented person, so everything should be well organized. Your being critical or pessimistic are caused by your perfectionist side. Not only you are well organized but you are clean, analytic, detailed, dedicated, patient, poetic and artistic. You love school and like quiet jobs  ( The kind of students that teachers like!) besides if you belong to this category, your knowledge are mostly  above average. These are cases of children who are melancholic-type children ( but applied to adults too )

Cases

-S(he) are asked to draw, but s(he) hasn’t had enough colored pencils. S(he) won’t start until every color is there. Then if s(he) has all colors, s(he) will start to arrange the colored pencils based on the color. Then s(he) will say “O.K I am ready to draw.” Conclusion : everything should be organized

-When a eight-year-old Alan who is melancholic was invited to a friend’s house, he was offered a cake by his friend’s mother “ I will go shopping today, what kind of cakes that your mother usually buys for you?” He directly answered “ peanuts cakes.”. Then few minutes later, the friend’s mother came and gave the peanuts  cake to him, but then Alan took all the peanuts away. The friend’s mother got surprised and asked “You said it was the cake your mother usually buys.” “ yes, it’s just that I don’t like the peanuts.”  Conclusion : If you want to get information from a melancholic-typed person ask direct questions because s(he) won’t tell you directly what s(he) really wants.

Emotional needs

space, peacefulness, sensitivity, support, self-satisfaction caused by great achievements.

Doing everything based on the rule

Just go by the book

Give me some spaces

Well-organized is a must

Being able to organize and set long-term goals/ standards, idealistic, having a deep-analysis skill on something, disciplined, extremely talented

easily depressed, wasting too much time on preparation, too detailed, being suspicious, too crtical of himself and of others, revengeful, easily offended

You think that your life is unorganized, unfulfilled standards/goals, you think that nobody seems to care about you.

Making mistakes, knowing that nobody understands his / her feelings.

a serious and an intellectual person. Someone whom you can talk to about something logical.

an absent-minded, slow, unorganized, a liar and unpredictable person.

You have skills on analyzing something in detailed.

You can organize everything well. You are sensitive to people’s feelings. You are creative, and you demand a qualified achievements.

you try to be calmer and not to be serious in facing your life. You don’t demand people to be perfectionists.

hiding yourself from people, deep reading, depressed, giving up easily.

Your clean-cut appearance ( your outfit, etc)

“ You are so perfectionist.” “You are such a clean-cut .” “You are a thinker.” “ You are introverted.”

Babyhood

As a baby you are quiet, and loves schedules. You don’t really like being surrounded by people. If many people say “ oh, you are such a cute baby.” , “ oh, what chubby cheeks you have.” etc. You will say “ hmm, I want to be alone.” This can be understood as you like being alone without so many people around you, that’s why you seem to look sad while you are actually not. As a baby, you cry easily and always depend on your parents or people whom you trust.

Childhood

You are a thinker, talented, musical and serious. As a teenager you are responsible for what you are doing, but you tend to avoid critics. You are a loyal best friend and perfectionist. Sometimes you do not want to communicate with others as you prefer to be alone to think everything by yourself. But once s(h)e wants to talk, s(he) will speak up, and all you need to do is just listen to him/ her as S(he) needs to be really listened.

Teenager

You have been a thinker since you were a baby. Now that you are a teenager you are still a thinker. At schools, you are your teachers’ favorite as you are a good student and creative that’s why you like to do some researches. You set high standards on something. What people like about you is that you are sensitive to people’s  feelings. If you avoid critics in your childhood, now you like being critical. To you, friends are important but sometimes you tend to be easily suspicious of  people. You have lower self-esteem and you need support from the people you love.

So, if you are not a sanguine person, are you a melancholic one then?

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